I'm saying that just like logic, emotions always make sense when you understand their premises, emotions and logic aren't the opposite, I believe that emotions absolutely have logic: if we understand the premises (past experiences, trauma, needs, fears, values), the emotional reaction makes perfect sense. The premises aren’t always obvious. They might be buried in past experiences, trauma, or unmet needs, but the emotional reaction follows from them as cleanly as “roses are f

Grief doesn’t follow rules, obey timelines, or ask permission. Grief can resurface decades later in unexpected ways. It spirals - not in a clean arc, but in recurring waves that deepen over time as we evolve. Grief has a volume, not a schedule. And we’re not given the number in advance, we find out only by letting it move through us. One tear at a time. Every grief has a certain number of tears that need to be shed. But the thing is, we don't know the number beforehand. ..